Hi everyone. Nice to be here and I think you're a lovely group of people.

There is a guy I have known via internet for about a year. From the start he would tell me I'm beautiful every time I changed my profile pic on facebook. He would like every post I made. Sometimes he would message me and we'd talk and he was always sweet, funny and polite. I found him really nice and so handsome. 

Finally he started to contact me more. Then one day I got a message from him where he said he had split from his girl (his decision), and that she possibly might try to bother me. I found this curious. There was something about the way he said it that made me think he might be giving me the hint that he is free now.  We chatted and he asked if he can talk to me regularly. I said yes, and he began contacting me daily, attempting to flirt. He would leave me messages that were romantic. Then one night he sent me a little verse saying how he was watching the moon and how he wished I could be at his side. He called me "my love". I found myself thinking about him all the time.  I did PW on him and imagined him telling me I was the most beautiful woman he had seen in his life, and that he wanted to marry me.

The following morning he sent me a love message.  Before I knew it we were flirting heavily and it got sexual. He told me he loved me, and that he had loved me for a long time. Then he said I was the most beautiful woman he had seen in his life, and he asked me to marry him - just as in my Lanie meditation. He said he wanted us to be married by early 2019. I said I want to marry him, but that we need to know each other for a while before finally deciding for sure. He said he didn't need to wait to decide anything. He said he loved me and from now on I would be his only love during his whole life. 

But the next day I couldn't come online until late. He was impatient and had been messaging me constantly all day. Later we fought, and I ended up in tears. He apologised and we made up. He began talking about our wedding, our life together, all the details, and he said "please say now that you will marry me". I said "yes!"and I felt so happy. 

He started talking about how life would be for us. He said he is posessive. He said he doesn't want me talking to any other guys on social media. I said ok, but then he said that he wanted my FB password. I said no. I felt it was going too far.

He said that proved I didn't trust him. Things got unpleasant. I said I was going offline to make dinner and he said "don't tell me that. Don't treat me like I'm stupid. I know you're chatting to another guy".  He kept accusing and was really nasty. I got upset. Finally I told him that I wasn't going to message him again. He gave me the thumbs up sign.

That was three days ago. The day after the fight he sent me an invitation on fb to "like" a shop that specializes in wedding clothes like the ones he had talked about. I "liked" it. The next day he was likeing all my posts again. He posted pics on his page of himself as a little kid. I liked the post

Yesterday he messaged me, thanking me for liking his post. He addressed me formally and called me "miss ....". I said he was welcome, and I called him "dear". I thanked him also for liking my posts, and I called him by a fun nic-name that I used for him. He gave me the thumbs up sign. I did the same. He did it again. So did I. After that he didn't continue the conversation. 

Today he liked a post of mine. But that's it. Then he went offline. Meanwhile I'm missing him badly. I feel totally in love. How do I handle this? What kind of Lanie meditation would be best for this situation?



 

Last edited by Sunshhine14 (2/18/2017 12:00 pm)