Lanie Stevens "Empowering Women" - http://laniestevens.com / Good Step forward ENORMOUS step back? HELP!!!

**Posted by Lindsay** 11/20/2017 11:26 am

It's been ages since I've been on this forum. It's because I've been working diligently on LOA to return my ex. Things were going very well. Slowly, but well. He had left me for another woman almost a year ago and we had zero contact until I discovered LOA in July. Since then we had sporadic, but consistent contact about work-related topics (we are in different locations so we never run into each other. Things were getting better and better!
About a week ago he sent me a drunken text in the middle of the night that said I looked good in my new work profile pic (WIN!)
Then today. We were on the phone. Haven't spoken since the text. We were having a friendly conversation and I was teasing him about not knowing how old I am. He suddenly went off on how he's happy things ended the way they did with us and how we can be colleagues again. And he's over us and hopes I am too. Mind you I mentioned NOTHING about our relationship. I've just been having friendly discussions with him since we began talking. This was out of the BLUE and threw me for a loop. I'm assuming he brought this up because he knew he crossed the line by complimenting my looks.
I'm extremely discouraged right now. I'm struggling to fight back the tears here at work. I'm sick to my stomach. I had been doing visualizations every single day. Lately I was working on a visualization of him telling me he misses me. Someone PLEASE reply. I"m truly about to give up.

**Posted by Manifestation Maven** 11/20/2017 12:32 pm

Hi Lindsay,

It's definitely not uncommon for the person of interest to get thrown off by the intense, passionate feelings they may have and they may push you away to maintain a sense of control or to detach from what they are feeling. It's important to get emotionally healthy and detach from him and the outcome as much as possible, this journey is supposed to be fun and feelings of neediness and desperation only push your desire further way. Also, it may be a good idea for you to seriously think about what you want in a partner and relationship and think about whether you really want this person, its always encouraged to manifest asking for what you want or something better!

**Posted by Lindsay** 11/20/2017 4:56 pm

Thank you for responding to me. Truly it was enormously helpful. You probably stopped me from having a complete meltdown at work and leaving early. Your words hit home. I think his words today will definitely help me detach more and live my own life with manifesting him in the background. I think that's my problem. I'm putting all my energy into HIM and not into myself.
As a side note, he ended up calling a few hours later to as some BS question. I think he wanted to check to see if I was mad at him.