I have an easier time when i am at home then at work... Also I am really really angry this cabin trip is Tuesday through Sunday and I know how they are... I want to see him and talk to him now i know he will be gone for 5 days with these people. I am trying to still focus on him loving me and stuff. I mean when i visualize and do the technique i try to feel it the best i can. Does it make it a problem if i am visualizing and really into the visualization best i can but when i am going through the rest of my day I struggle to stay positive?

Last edited by awesomesauce88 (1/25/2016 10:22 am)

Soblue wrote:

TL wrote:

Hi sisters!
So I want to share my experience of using the technique so far and also ask for some advice.
I already told Lanie about this story in the email but I would like to share it here as well:
I have been using the technique for about ten days or so to attract my ex back. I haven't seen any results yet from my ex but something happened at work when I wanted to test it out.
One day I was just sitting at my desk dozing off, and I was like okay I am going to test the technique now since I recalled Lanie said in the book the best time to use it is when you are sleepy.
So I closed my eyes and visualized this guy from my work come offering his cookies to me. (I knew this coworker had cookies in his drawer). So I did it exactly the way Lanie taught in the Pussy Whip book. I visualized calling his name and then he turned around and asked "would you like some cookies?" It was a quick visualization and I didn't really have too much expectations for it. Then literally within five minutes I heard this guy opening his drawer. In my head I was like no freaking way! this is happening! Then I got an instant message on our internal messenger "would you like some cookies?" the exact words I visualized him saying in my visualization. In all fairness, this guys always likes to offer his cookies at work. But at the time I was visualizing he was busying doing his work and  we didnt have any interaction the whole day that day. Coincidence? maybe lol but I was blown away by how fast it manifested.

Anyway, going back to my concerns now. My ex broke up with just before Xmas last year. So I have been doing the no contact for over 5 weeks now. I have also been using the technique for about 10 days mixing with other remote seduction ones I learned before. I do it for at least 3 times a day, especially when I wake up in the morning and before I go to bed. I find that I get really tired sometimes when I visualize too much, like I would get really sleepy and and tired during the day. I want to contact him so badly now because I don't want him to completely move on without me. I know it is good to wait for him to contact me first but I don't have patience to wait for a few months or a year like Lanie mentioned in the previous post. It would kill me to see him dating other women. I really want the technique to manifest fast but I know that he is a super stubborn guy that even if he gets the message he has enough will power to stop himself from calling me. What should I do now? I hope that all the visualization I have done so far will at least help make him be more open to hear from me.

Love and blessings to all,
Trish

 
Hi Trish. I have Lanies books as well and have used it briefly in the past with some success. I have not started back yet as I want to rid myself of the negative energy I am feeling for the guy.

Any who, first as you can see it does work. The cookies was no coincidence I inadvertently do it all the time by just thinking of something or someone and they will call or text me. You're on the right track by doing it 3 times a day. Do you know how hard that is for most people?? By being that focused and disciplined with your manifesting 3 times a day will certainly bring you results. As you said you've only been doing it for 10 days and the guy is stubborn; you must allow more time. At least a solid 30 days and continue on after that.

Why did you guys break up or why did he break up with you before Christmas? How long were you together before the breakup? is this your first breakup? How old are both of you? Do you live in the same city/state? You have NOT contacted him right? I can give you some advice after I get the answers to those questions.

Thanks for the reply!

Why did you guys break up or why did he break up with you before Christmas?
-He broke up with me 10 days before Xmas. He didn't say much other than that he didnt want to be with me anymore and that the feeling was gone. We talked about moving in together just a week before the breakup, well, i talked about it and he sort of agreed. Then during the breakup he mentioned that he wasn't feeling happy about moving in together and that told him a lot. He said that he was ready to commit and take the next step but deep down he just didn't think I was the right person. He said he didn't want to waste my time anymore and he had made up his mind. 

 How long were you together before the breakup?
-We were officially together for over a year. and we were seeing each other for 10 months before that. 
 is this your first breakup?
-He tried to break up with me three times before this one, and I begged and convinced him to come back every time. so technically yes, this is the first time we are really apart.

 How old are both of you?
-he is 28 and I'm 31
 Do you live in the same city/state? 
-Yes we live in the same city.

You have NOT contacted him right? 
-No, We haven't talked to each other since Dec. 15th. He sent a brief message on Xmas day to say Merry Xmas and that was it.


Thanks a lot for taking your time to read and reply to my message. Many blessings to you
Trish

Soblue wrote:

awesomesauce88 wrote:

I guess i m just worried because i tried to manifest the cabin trip for me and it did not work and so i start wondering why and then there is doubt...

 
The cabin trip is going to happen, I would just let that go. Whatever is going to happen there is going to happen you really have no control over that. I wouldn't even think about. I'll just continue manifesting. If you're that upset then cry it out and get back to manifesting. Crying is therapeutic but shouldn't be what you're doing all day everyday. I understand exactly what you're going through and how you're feeling. I am sure many women on this forum has gone through something similar.

Actually I just went through the same thing; the guy I am interested in went to Jamaica without me. He is there right now as I write to you. He left last Wednesday and should be on his way back. I was supposed to go but we got into a stupid argument and he went without me. To say I was pissed is an understatement! He lives in the Midwest I live in NJ; I barely see him as is. He came home to visit his family which is where I live before he booked the trip. It was sort of last minute trip and I was I aws like ok I'm going too! He was apprehensive because of our "arguing past" but agreed to have me come. He came back by to see me before going to the airport and we got into a stupid argument. Something I could have totally avoided, uuurggh! That cut the trip and he went "alone." So of course I could think the worst of him frolicking in Jamaica by himself but after I cried it out the first day I was over the obsessing part and busied myself.

Stop obsessing about what is going to happen in the cabin, who cares. Guys aren't like us. They can go away and have fun, flirt do things with other woman but there are no real connections made just a good time. Regardless, you just need to focus on you and him. I will do the same for mine, I am just not ready to start manifesting because I want to resolve things in my head first.

That is such great advice you shared!   However, I think now is the perfect time for you to manifest and I hope you will!  Manifest peace within yourself and it will change your relationship with him.   During meditation tell yourself   "I am a calm, centered, happy person and am easily able to control my temper, insecurities and anger."  Then visualize forgiveness between the two of you.  xoxoxoxoxo

Marz wrote:

Hi Sisters! Hi Lanie!

Lanie, I want to first thank you for your books, emailing me back and inviting me here. This is an awesome group and I'm excited to participate. 

I've been in a quite complicated relationship with a (very) difficult man - but your technique + giving him his space has made him behave so incredibly sweet towards me. Don't get me wrong, he's not a jerk - but he does have some commitment issues and he's disappointed me quite often and repeatedly. 

We broke up on NYE and took a break from speaking (here's when I did the technique consistently). Last night he told me that he was sort of upset at that the fact that I was happy during our separation because he wasn't, then he asked "what do we do now?". I told him that we can move forward as friends and that's all we really can do at this point. I also told him I am in love with him ... I'm sure he knew that, but felt he needed to hear it because I could tell that he was afraid I'd gotten over him. 

So, ugh, I know this sounds like a lot! But this man is the love of my life. In 35 years, I've never loved someone so much - to this capacity or continued to deal with BS like I do with him - but he needs to know that we will not just get back together at the snap of a finger because it's what he wants. In this aspect, men are a lot like children and they can't be spoiled. ;)

I'm continuing the technique for both of us. I will continue to love him (especially in my technique) and hopefully help him heal from certain issues and insecurities that lead him to behave the way he does. I not only want him to love me, I also want happiness and balance for him.  I look forward to things getting better for us and a time where we can get back together and have a much better understanding and love and trust for one another.

I will keep you guys updated on what happens

You are on the right path dear! You are like me; you really cannot just give these men what they want. They have to still earn it or they will walk all over you.

I see a bright loving relationship for you Keep us posted 
 

DCS82 wrote:

Awesomesauce,

Keep in mind this is MY interpretation of this...but follow me for a sec:
The goal in manifesting anything is to be happy. This is because, well, you want something that you believe will make you feel good. Now, the books are all about empowerment and confidence. The statement you are talking about is in the Burn with Desire book. The "long" method in that book, Lanie mentions that you should use it when you "really want someone."

Now, the LOA is about vibrations. The attracting vibration you seek, the one that draws things to you is a happy, having vibration. That's the vibration you have when you are 100% happy, smiling, have no cares in the world and don't NEED anything coming to you. You don't need it because you are projecting the feeling of HAVING it already. So...it comes to you by default. Does that make sense? If you are having trouble getting movement, are tired, looking for results and obsessing over it...you are emitting a NEED vibration. Needing and wanting something put it in the future. You are living in the vibe of wanting and wishing for it. The step after asking for something is receiving it. If you live as if you already have it, you'll learn to harness those feelings and begin to focus elsewhere.

Finally, I believe that statement was put in the book because there are generally two types of approaching manifesting: the "act as if" and the "completely letting go" way. Now, the universe doesn't forget what you want, but it does react based on your dominant vibration. So, if you can get into that happy space and enjoy living as if, visualizing them with you all the time and generally don't need or want to worry about it anymore, then you are in the right headspace for what you are looking for to manifest. If you are stressing over it, Lanie suggests "maybe it's not meant" so that you'll let go of working on this goal (for now), and focus elsewhere to get into that happy place. Once you are IN that happy place, you are emitting the vibration of having what you want...so the universe delivers. See? The common theme is confidence and happiness. In order for this to work fast, relax, trust, have faith and make the process fun! It's like a game, so enjoy it! If it feels like work or if there is stress involved, focus elsewhere, just for a little bit. There are tons of stories out there where people had decided to just give up completely and focus on themselves. That's when their person came back! Because they let go of that need and got happy.

Lanie would need to address exactly the reasoning behind it, but this is just my interpretation. Just be happy and joyful, and do that by any means necessary. When you enjoy life, the things you want will find their way to you

-Dan

 
This is great and informative info! Thank you very much