DC wrote:

Rather than looking at this purely through the eyes of faith, let's apply some logic.

Put yourself in his shoes for a moment. Say that you are constantly thinking about the same person over and over and over. You get sexually turned on over and over by the thoughts of the person doing RS. You are bombarded by loving feelings. You are constantly missing this person. How long would you be able to fight it?  Soon, maybe in weeks or months, you are convinced you are in love with this person. Then what?  Keep tormenting yourself or would you reach out?  Even if he has free will, how long can a person keep going in that state???  You are also adding energy each time you do the techniques so it gets more and more intense.

He's in an incredibly difficult situation.

Long story short, his baby mama is an alcoholic and they're not together but he lives with her to provide for his daughter and he's saving money so he can move out, take her to court, etc. (he has health issues as well so the med bills take a hit on him too) and he's told me time and again that although he cares about me deeply and wants to be with me, he can't because his baby mama will kick him out if she finds out he's seeing me despite him being single and telling her they're not getting back together.

I know we will end up together in the end but in my sessions I make him tell me things like, "I'm moving out and buying a house for me and my daughter so we can have a better life. I love you." And I always make sure the sessions are extremely intense and full of love.

The only issue is we haven't been talking too much recently and had an argument on Monday (which he said sorry for so it's fine) but I'm trying so hard and sometimes I feel like it's not reaching him amist all the negativity.

I try not to read negative posts. It brings your energy down. But sometimes the way the post is worded you don't know it's negative till you read it. I like DC's explanation as usual!

Blue wrote:

Does PW and BWD truly work every time? And will your man eventually crumble and give in?

I read a pretty pessimistic post on Veronica's forum saying "no matter how much hyponisis or whatever you do, no one will do something they don't truly want to."

My situation is incredibly complicated and I do all things with unconditional love and I have had so much hope so I just need some positivity.

Blue wrote:

DC wrote:

I think you seem pretty attached. Rest assured that it's reaching him. Lanie says you can't do the method wrong, and I've seen viable results with test subjects when I didn't try hard or consistently use the methods. Don't dwell on it, meaning do the method and go about your day. If you find that you get too attached after doing the method, do it at bedtime so you can release after with some rest.

I'm trying to unattach myself. I know in my heart are going to be together but it gets hard and on top of that it's very difficult to stay positive sometimes when there's all this negativity, you know what I mean?

Just keep working through it, one day at a time. You'll get there. We're pulling for you 😀

emmiline wrote:

Hi Blue, if you havent yet, try Lanie's cord cutting meditation. Then when you feel more positive about your target start PW / BWD again.

I've heard about Lanie's cord cutting meditation before, but will it cut off his feelings and thoughts of me? I'm scared to try it, honestly.