Lanie Stevens "Empowering Women" - http://laniestevens.com / Have you seen the movie Inception?

**Posted by AmberSky** 10/12/2016 7:53 pm

Amazing post. I have the Inception DVD, time to watch it again!

**Posted by emmiline** 11/15/2016 5:02 pm

Bump!

**Posted by Joshbemine** 1/06/2017 6:33 am

I love this post and have just read it again. Feeling really inspired now. 🤗

**Posted by wanderlusting** 1/06/2017 2:52 pm

What if he has told you that he does love you, loves spending time with you and hanging out, wants you, but says he doesn't want a relationship right now (keeping options open)? How do you manage to speak to him in his own language when he wants to only focus on himself, be selfish with his time, and not have the responsibilities that come along with having a relationship (his words verbatim)?

**Posted by Blue** 1/06/2017 2:57 pm

wanderlusting wrote:
What if he has told you that he does love you, loves spending time with you and hanging out, wants you, but says he doesn't want a relationship right now (keeping options open)? How do you manage to speak to him in his own language when he wants to only focus on himself, be selfish with his time, and not have the responsibilities that come along with having a relationship (his words verbatim)?

Girl - his words don't matter!!! This is YOUR reality, YOUR world! You can have anything you want if you truly believe and have faith!!!

**Posted by emmiline** 1/06/2017 4:49 pm

Hi wanderlusting, give him space but keep up the technique.
If he doesnt want a relationship right now, dont give him the pleasure of your company / your conversation / your love right now
You got this!

**Posted by emmiline** 1/06/2017 4:51 pm

Joshbemine wrote:
I love this post and have just read it again. Feeling really inspired now. 🤗

Hey joshbemine, this is my fave thread

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**Posted by emmiline** 1/06/2017 5:06 pm

wanderlusting wrote:
How do you manage to speak to him in his own language when he wants to only focus on himself, be selfish with his time, and not have the responsibilities that come along with having a relationship (his words verbatim)?

Simply rewrite that to: "I am completely focused on you, I am giving you my time and energy because you are worth it, I enjoy the responsibility that comes with being in a committed relationship with you" when you PW him.

Do you see how we took his words and rearranged them to make it about him being in a relationship with you? You'll probably do a better job because you know what words he will use and how he will say them. Just tweak the script in your visualization.

Good luck!

**Posted by wanderlusting** 1/06/2017 5:21 pm

Thank you so much for your advice.

emmiline wrote:
Hi wanderlusting, give him space but keep up the technique.
If he doesnt want a relationship right now, dont give him the pleasure of your company / your conversation / your love right now
You got this!

**Posted by wanderlusting** 1/06/2017 5:23 pm

I am definitely going to try this even though he is scared sh!tless of responsibility and having to deal with the "burden" of worrying about and "dealing" with someone on a constant basis.

emmiline wrote:
wanderlusting wrote:
How do you manage to speak to him in his own language when he wants to only focus on himself, be selfish with his time, and not have the responsibilities that come along with having a relationship (his words verbatim)?
Simply rewrite that to: "I am completely focused on you, I am giving you my time and energy because you are worth it, I enjoy the responsibility that comes with being in a committed relationship with you" when you PW him.

Do you see how we took his words and rearranged them to make it about him being in a relationship with you? You'll probably do a better job because you know what words he will use and how he will say them. Just tweak the script in your visualization.

Good luck!