Lanie Stevens "Empowering Women" - http://laniestevens.com / Advice

**Posted by TyrellWellick** 2/17/2017 5:29 am

Hello!
I'm sure this situation has been posted in this forum a lot of times before, but since I'm new, I haven't been able to read about it, so I need to ask you for advice, again, sorry if this has been covered already.
I've managed to attract him back, but he's going hot and cold. He lives in another country, so the only way we communicate is through messages, and what he's been sending messages, and as soon as I reply, he stops answering, to come back after weeks, and that's pissing me off, to be honest, because it seems that he just wants to make sure I'm there but doesn't want to talk.

What I want to know is: should I send him a message telling him that what he's doing is not nice or should I tell him through PW? When he messages again, should I say something or should I pretend nothing's happening? What would you do?

Thank you so much in advance!

-Isabella

**Posted by Lanie Stevens** 2/17/2017 10:40 am

I would do both! Send him a message using the technique and send him one to let him know why you are upset with him and be specific! For instance, tell him that it upsets you when you don't hear from him for weeks at a time. Give him the opportunity to change his behavior and if he doesn't make pleasing you a priority I would not respond to his messages. In the meantime open yourself up to dating someone who is not in another country! Long distance relationships are difficult if they are a few hundred miles apart but another country makes it really, really hard. Use the technique to attract other men!

**Posted by jellyb** 2/17/2017 10:43 am

That's so frustrating and I feel your pain because I go through the same thing with my guy, who's also in another country.

What I do is have him tell me, in PW, that he loves me and treasures me, and that he has a unrelenting need to contact me, stay close to me, and move our relationship forward.

When you do it, do NOT have him say he'll start contacting you or that he plans to contact you more often, because that still implies a future action instead of having it be something that's happening NOW.

Hope that helps!

**Posted by TyrellWellick** 2/17/2017 11:10 am

Thank you so much for your replies, Lanie and jellyb

I will definitely follow your advices! And I will do the CTC meditation tonight, so I can open up to new opportunities.

Again, thank you