I am scared that PW wont work because my ex never gave me enough time. He was always busy and never really showed the same amount of interest in my life. So I am not sure whether PW is worth doing it on him? Although we had some good memories too. Any advise would be very helpful

Actually, I'm also scared of attracting another one who turns out to be abusive, like the last guy.

 

Tess wrote:

Actually, I'm also scared of attracting another one who turns out to be abusive, like the last guy.

 

  
  
For the most part, people treat us the way we allow them to treat us.  
So you need to work on that.  If you begin a brand new relationship and
start detecting problems, that is the time to walk away.  Things like he
looks at you crazy, he says inappropriate things, any type of physical
abuse such as restraining you, pulling on you, however small, all those
things are indicators that you are in for a bumpy ride if you pursue a
relationship with that person.  Hanging around trying to change him,
trying to love the meanie out of him, all of those efforts do NOT work.  

Forget about what happened in your past, empower yourself, decide
what it is that you want from a relationship and don't allow anyone
mistreat you anymore.
  
  
 

Indigo wrote:

DJ wrote:

I am scared that PW wont work because my ex never gave me enough time. He was always busy and never really showed the same amount of interest in my life. So I am not sure whether PW is worth doing it on him? Although we had some good memories too. Any advise would be very helpful
  

  

It sounds to me as if your man was taking you for granted, and you can't allow that to happen.
  
This is a copy and paste from my own previous post just in case if anyone finds this repetitive:

I'm going to give you the same advice that I give most others that are having relationship issues.  
Lanie's PW and BWD are wonderful tools to have at your disposal to use on your man.  However,
when there are other problems, you must do more.  It is important to read and implement Lanie's
teachings from her other books, so do yourself a ginormous favor and read them ALL.  I suggest
you start with PP and BU2MU goes into detail about NC and other topics to get your man in
check.  


 

Thank you for the reply. I am currently reading Lanie's 4th book. I agree with you that he took me for granted. But I have thought enough and decided I cannot do PW on him because I dont feel positive at all when I think about him. I just want to manifest an apology out of him. So if you can help with that, I would be grateful.

My ex before the one I actually want seems to have become obsessed with me, he is even messaging my friends to get me to talk to him ( I have blocked him as I wanted a fresh start and realised he isnt worthy of doing this on anymore - Which I decided months ago btw.) 

But it seems like everything I am trying to get my love to do, my ex before that, its coming out in him instead. So I suppose I am not doubting I am just wondering why its coming out in him instead of my love that I am actually trying to get back? 

The ex before our situation became very damaged and the way he treated me I realised I deserved better (thanks to lanies books ) But the one I want treated me how I should be treated and was an amazing guy, he just wasnt ready. I am confused haha x