littlemermaid wrote:

Hi ChaliceSnowFlower,

I agree with you that  you need to give yourself the love you so desire.

You said getting back into the same old relationship would lead to the same ending. Do you think that there is no way to change the dynamic of a relationship (even if you work on self love and happiness)? 

Of course the dynamics of the relationship can change. Change is not something that happens overnight. This is why working on yourself give you the greatest benefit. But some women are just to anxious to get their man back right now for fear other women will get his attention. That kind of energy does not make you lovely in anyone's eyes. Loving and taking care of self is first. Manifesting your ex is second. But others are doing it the other way around.

This is why I love Lanie's story of how she manifested her ex back. Anyone who has not read it should go and read it right now. Re-read it even if you have done so already. Check out how Lanie spent more time growing and evolving instead of just practicing her own technique. She even mentions somewhere that she was not even doing the technique everyday.

forgetmenot111 wrote:

Chalice- I posted something similar elsewhere on this forum, but essentially, "less is more" is the kind of mindset to have here??

I just worry that if I focus on me and I'm not necessarily thinking about my ex then the Universe will think I'm okay without it and it will not manifest. What're your thoughts?

Also, I'm curious.. have you used Lanie's techniques at all to manifest? I did one session of Love Spell and I'm doing the second one tonight. What do you think about them??

I don't have the book with the love spell so I can't speak on that one. I have done a bit of Pussy Whip and How To Make Burn With Desire ... Only For You whenever I am in the mood to do them with no specific target in mind. They must have worked as I have a guy nuts about me, but I have zero interest in him. He however is convinced that somehow we will be together. He has a long way to go if he wants to be my man. My standards are far above him. And Shana  is not into settling anymore.

But I have placed them on the back burner since this month begun. I don't want to be in a relationship right now anyways. It's all about me. But if you read my post in Lanie's Brad Pitt about how I manifested my first kiss, I ran into that guy today. He got married not long after I let him go. But he still had the nerve to call me his love. Then he covered it saying he calls everyone that. I bet his wife is not happy about that and I don't believe him anyways. He ain't fooling me.

Let me see if I can find the direct link if you are interested in reading that post. http://laniestevensforum.boardhost.com/viewtopic.php?pid=5509#p5509. If the link is not correct, go to page 7, post 68.

To address your first question, the Universe won't forget your order. So many people falsely assume that if they stop thinking about their desires that the desire is going to think they no longer want it. You only have to place your order once. Trust that it will come to you when the time is right. And that time will be when you have the least amount of resistance between you and what you want.