It seems like at least some of the relationship stress that we have is self generated. We've created the ideals of timing and what is "enough". Things tend to go like this "He was short on the phone today, I'm sad." "He hasn't replied to my texts, It must be over" . "I haven't seen him in a few days, he must have someone else." and so on. Once we have those lingering thoughts, it embeds and we have that negative energy. But, when you think about it - these beliefs have been fairly recently introduced to the dating world.
If we step back and look at things from a wider perspective, some of the longest marriages and relationships(such as grandparents and aunts) - maintained the majority of their duration without having cellphones. When my grandfather would leave to work, my grandmother would not speak to him until he returned home that evening. There weren't any good morning texts etc. How did we get to a point where things like texts, calls etc define relationships?
With social media, it's like walking into a room and knowing what everyone is talking about and even where they are. That stuff isn't natural and has created an unnecessary layer to dating if you ask me. How can we get rid of these ideals? It's worth a thought because some of us drive ourselves nuts
