1 | Success Stories » EFT Love Magnet Success » 1/31/2018 1:57 pm |
- Jag123
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I have to champion this, because Brad Yates changed my life and Love Magnet is one of the best
Keep tapping daily!!
| Success Stories » It worked.,. but only when I truly let go » 1/31/2018 1:37 pm |
- Jag123
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Hello all!
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I wanted to come back with an update. Firstly to answer the questions (I'm sorry it's taken so long, I felt I needed to say away from the forum while I got my head together)
PrettyBrownEyes - There are a million Brad videos and the beauty of there being so many is that you pick the vid that resonates at that time So, if in that moment you are feeling unworthy tap on that subject. If you feel like you couldn't imagine your desire manifesting find a vid related to that. When I'm feeling good, I do the love magnet vid someone mentioned in another thread. It definitely works, and you know you've moved forward when you really believe what you are tapping on! Hope that helps?
Nyusikam - Letting go is really hard and there isn't a set method for doing it. When I think back, I made a conscious effort to focus on myself when my mind kept drifting to him. I had to have a list of things I would do to occupy me, like a book loaded on my kindle that I know would absorb me, a podcast I wanted to listen too, cook, binge watch Hayu lol! Anything. Though it never helped ME to come on a forum like this or research ex back stuff because my focus would inadveterntly be him. It's like picking a scab. You just need to forget it's there for a while. I hope this helps?
Unicorn - You are as always a bright and wise star - I appreciate you and have PM'd you.
So for the update -
He is now making all of the moves. He calls, he texts he talks about the future. I can' actually believe I'm typing this because we've come a long way. The difference now is that I don't feel excited or it's like a miracle. It feels natural because i've done the work on myself. I'm actually the less open one, I have zero expectations. I have my moments, even as close as this weekend when i'd had too much to drink and we spoke on the phone, but he had to go. I had too much to drink and my mind went crazy! Was it happening again etc!? When I woke th
| Success Stories » It worked.,. but only when I truly let go » 1/17/2018 9:14 am |
- Jag123
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Awwww Unicorn! We are definitely tuned into each other
… Thank you so much, I know we will be celebrating you too soon. I hope you are staying strong and positive on your journey, because you deserve only the best (you know that anyway )
I must say I think I'm going through another energetic growth spurt from this new standpoint - I can feel the growing pains. I have now talked about seeing him last weekend, both here and with a couple of friends. Not so much here, but with friends, I was almost scared to talk about it because of our history. My mind turned to "will he let me down again, will I be embarrassed again?" In fact I felt quite out of sorts yesterday with it. I kept the conversation light-hearted and short when telling my friends, but I am conscious of what they may have been thinking. I have remind myself of two things here: "He is what I think he is - so I need to reframe him in my mind " and "what anyone else thinks of me is none of my business".
I'm guessing it's because it's not a familiar place to be in, and I'm not acting in the way I always did. So it's fear of the unknown. Before we knew our roles and we played them well - I chased him and he ran away. I've stopped chasing and he has stopped running, so I suppose it's.... now what! The old story was a nightmare, but least I knew what was coming. Lol! It's just the lining up with the new story, that feels a bit of sorts at the moment.
I'm guessing it's natural. A bit like getting a promotion at work and feeling like a fraud for the first few months because your old role was more comfortable, but you'd outgrown it. Actually taking that analogy a step further, if you were promoted at work, you would be given time to ease into your new role and familiarise yourself with your new surroundings . You would perhaps be slightly anxious about how you were viewed by your once peers, and how they now view you. As it starts to become more familiar
| Success Stories » It worked.,. but only when I truly let go » 1/16/2018 1:56 am |
- Jag123
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Hi YouOweYourself,
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What a lovely message! Im so glad that my journey has helped you , writing everything down helped me get from where I was to where I am. I received wonderful advice and encouragement which helped tremendously!
I meant to post an update this week because what has happened most recently has been a complete transformation. I am still learning but I can say that my relationship with him is now better than it has ever been. We aren't together as a couple (I know this is because I have a wrinkle in my belief about what is truly possible), but we had a date this weekend and I can say absolutely that this works. I will try and break it down as much as possible, but no amount of action could have created this, it was all about me and my beliefs about what I believed to be possible between us. When I worked on those, he came to me.
So, over the Christmas break I was out of the country. I decided that it was the perfect opportunity to take a break from it all. We had been talking sporadically after our fateful meeting, and it was really nice but it was just that. Texting and talking occassionally. I now look at that period of time, and recall all kinds of resistance was being brought up. In the past, because we were in contact, I would want to discuss it with him and "get to the bottom of why we were like this" I became attached to the outcome A LOT and felt "what's the point" A LOT. However instead of venting here, or texting him drunk with a "WHYYYYYY" I took responsibility as a creator of my own reality and looked at why I was creating these feelings. I now know this was a key time because I was able to "tap" through what was coming up or feel the resistance until it dissipated (remember what you resists persists) every time I broke through the resistance a bit more, by soothing myself and not looking for him or anything outside of me to feel better, the way I felt about the/a relationship began to change. I to
| Success Stories » It worked.,. but only when I truly let go » 12/18/2017 4:11 pm |
- Jag123
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dannie wrote:This is what I'd do too!!! LOL
Jag123 wrote:I had lunch today with my two friends who have just had a little baby. Normally, I would feel feelings of insecurity, jealousy "will it ever happen for me" etc. Then my mind would wander to him and I would go through a thought loop like this:
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"Will I ever get him back? He is the only one I could ever have seen myself having a family with. It's never going to happen for me. I am going to be like this for the rest of my life. I wonder what he is doing? I wonder if he's fallen in love with her? How am I going to get him back? I want to be in love like they are. I can't imagine me ever being in this position with him, because he is gone. Why couldn't he love me, what did I do wrong? Why her and not me. I am going to try PW tonight and see if I can make it happen. I might start the love spell again. How on earth can I get him back!!"
Literally that would be my thought process - and then repeat until bedtime. I would be triggered by reality not looking the way I wanted it to, and feel jealous, insecure or a loser. I'd go on a complete tangent of emotions which usually ended with me drinking a bottle of white wine and stalking him online. When I found any evidence, which usually wasn't much because I was blocked everywhere, I'd then cry myself to sleep. I wouldn't really want to be around certain friends who "had it all" and even though I smiled and made happy inside I was so jealous. Then wonder why PW wasn't working lol!
Today has been another great success, because I have come away from that lunch feeling confident, secure, happy for my friends and feeling excited about the future - without attachment. Holding the baby was amazing, because I looked at her and thought, this is what I want. Now I actually have a recent experience to help me create it. Watching the love between my two friends was great for exactly the same reason. That is a manifestat
| Success Stories » It worked.,. but only when I truly let go » 12/18/2017 3:44 pm |
- Jag123
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Avaelle wrote:
This reminds me of my situation. I just posted about it.
I have just seen it and patiently awaiting your replies to my questions!!! Massive congrats!!
| Success Stories » My Update » 12/18/2017 3:24 pm |
- Jag123
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Massive congratulations!!! This is an amazing story and you have done amazingly well.
So how do you want your story to end? You have the version of him that you want, you are in control. Are you indifferent about being with him, or is that just how you feel in his approach to you? I am very curious to know!
If your story isn't an inspiration to keep on with the self love, I don't know what is. Massive congrats again, not because you got him back, but because you got you back!!!
J xx
| Success Stories » It worked.,. but only when I truly let go » 12/18/2017 1:54 pm |
- Jag123
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I had lunch today with my two friends who have just had a little baby. Normally, I would feel feelings of insecurity, jealousy "will it ever happen for me" etc. Then my mind would wander to him and I would go through a thought loop like this:
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"Will I ever get him back? He is the only one I could ever have seen myself having a family with. It's never going to happen for me. I am going to be like this for the rest of my life. I wonder what he is doing? I wonder if he's fallen in love with her? How am I going to get him back? I want to be in love like they are. I can't imagine me ever being in this position with him, because he is gone. Why couldn't he love me, what did I do wrong? Why her and not me. I am going to try PW tonight and see if I can make it happen. I might start the love spell again. How on earth can I get him back!!"
Literally that would be my thought process - and then repeat until bedtime. I would be triggered by reality not looking the way I wanted it to, and feel jealous, insecure or a loser. I'd go on a complete tangent of emotions which usually ended with me drinking a bottle of white wine and stalking him online. When I found any evidence, which usually wasn't much because I was blocked everywhere, I'd then cry myself to sleep. I wouldn't really want to be around certain friends who "had it all" and even though I smiled and made happy inside I was so jealous. Then wonder why PW wasn't working lol!
Today has been another great success, because I have come away from that lunch feeling confident, secure, happy for my friends and feeling excited about the future - without attachment. Holding the baby was amazing, because I looked at her and thought, this is what I want. Now I actually have a recent experience to help me create it. Watching the love between my two friends was great for exactly the same reason. That is a manifestation in itself, I really am changing and it feels SO good!
| Success Stories » It worked.,. but only when I truly let go » 12/18/2017 1:31 pm |
- Jag123
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unicornsnrainbows wrote:Jag123 wrote:
Don't you think there is that sweet spot when you are back in contact and still not sure of the intentions. It's frustrating because you want it now, but you have faith that the relationship could actually be everything you imagine it could be. You can do the "work" safe in the knowledge that they are thinking about you.. It is the newness before full contact resumes and expectations arise - we are human after all! When you are back together or heading in that way properly,it is very easy to return back to the old familliar self and patterns - both of you. That's why this part of the journey is so important in creating a new you energetically, to the point where the old familliar self and patterns don't exist anymore. I am glad it is taking time, this is where I believe we are at our creative best. Last night showed me I'm not quite there yet, so I'm grateful for that.
Yes, I agree with this. It makes a lot of sense. I guess I was thinking of the last time I saw him, which was more than half a year ago, and how much it threw me off when he disappeared again. I let what was in front of me gobsmack me, instead of staying firm in my creative shoes. But I still had a lot to learn and process, so I don't regret any of this time gap. It is almost certain that we would have fallen back into the old, familiar, broken relationship if we had started something up back then, even with all the time that had already gone by.
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That's why this part of the journey is so important in creating a new you energetically, to the point where the old familliar self and patterns don't exist anymore.
Yep, that's the balancing act! And the part that is probably the most rewarding, when you can see the change, the new dynamic that you have created, right before your very eyes! I'd say this is the most exciting leg of the journey for you. [img]
| Success Stories » It worked.,. but only when I truly let go » 12/18/2017 4:11 am |
- Jag123
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unicornsnrainbows wrote:
haha, it's true, we are all a bit bonkers here! And yes, it is SO much easier to remain on an even-keel and stay detached from the worry and over-thinking when our person is not currently in our life. I can only imagine the rollercoaster ride of emotion and anticipation I'd suddenly be on if I were to hear from mine. Easier to imagine and create from a vacuum than from a dose of physical reality smacking you in the face. So it's important to keep remembering how FAR YOU'VE COME, and that YOU created THIS! He's texting you. Real time. Real world. It's all happening right n...no...it all happened months ago. You are just seeing the evidence now as it trickles in on your screen. So instead of observing and reacting to these tracers, (the projection playing out on your screen), keep creating the film for the next movie you want to see.
Don't you think there is that sweet spot when you are back in contact and still not sure of the intentions. It's frustrating because you want it now, but you have faith that the relationship could actually be everything you imagine it could be. You can do the "work" safe in the knowledge that they are thinking about you.. It is the newness before full contact resumes and expectations arise - we are human after all! When you are back together or heading in that way properly,it is very easy to return back to the old familliar self and patterns - both of you. That's why this part of the journey is so important in creating a new you energetically, to the point where the old familliar self and patterns don't exist anymore. I am glad it is taking time, this is where I believe we are at our creative best. Last night showed me I'm not quite there yet, so I'm grateful for that.
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When he text and the gnawing feeling came, I could tell I'd moved ever so slightly from the sweet spot to the old familliar - my emotions told me. It's a subtle difference, which is why being aware of
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