That was fabulous to read. So uplifting!

That is a wonderful story. So happy for you.

The self-love aspects force us to focus on us more than them. It reminds us of what's important, helps us to be in a better place. That projects outward to those who've connected with us, who're close to us, and who we're mentally connecting to. Then mentally they start thinking in a way, "I should treat her better." Or thinking of us differently (more positively). It's almost like we don't care about getting them back (we do, but the stress and fear of not having them lets up) so when they feel that lightness, they drift back like we're the lighthouse in the storm. The main goal is that when we focus on ourselves and project that love and happiness to the world, everyone is guided to that light (us).

When we focus on us, they focus on us. When we focus on them, they focus on them. Just like giving too much to family, friends, etc. Who are we focused on? Them. Who are they focused on? Themselves. I changed my relationship with a highly abusive mother (emotionally especially) simply by changing the way it affected me and loved myself more, but didn't focus much on her and the outbursts. Is she 100% better? No, and I think it's partly me too still having work to do. But she has never treated anyone in an about-face like she has me. DRASTIC improvement. All that changed was my own self-love, focus, and when she cuts me down, telling her to stop taking her anger out on me. I speak my truth. Exact same methods we do to manifest money, our SP, etc. When we change us, the world changes how it treats us as does the people in our world.
 

Isn't that so funny how we'll do it and not even realize those things are connected until we're in the place where we are open to learning about it, and do? I've had a few of those instances myself and never realized the connection until now that I've been really learning about them. It's so much fun!

Also that sounds like a nice little time there, haha.

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Sunshine&Dreams wrote:

Yeaaahhh it's that disconnection from the outcome which is THE hardest part about it all for me. I've received SO many things that I can also safely state sometimes you'll still get it if you can just half disconnect, haha. So don't beat yourself up if you can't one hundred percent do it. Distraction is my best method. Even if I have to blast music in my brain for an hour, lol. You got this!

I know, right?! We get so easily caught up every time we see success. I know for a fact that all of my visualizations of running into him attracted us seeing each other. My ex lives in the same city as I do which isn't a big city and I've never bumped into him for the past 5 years so this is no coincidence. Them silly boys be so confused, haha 😂

What interesting things have you been able to manifest?

I'm picturing them walking around in a confused haze and laughing, haha.

With my specific person I've manifested some ahem, moments of interesting talk. I didn't even realize that I'd actually done the BWD in relation to what a meme I sent him was about, and he happened to say in effect it was his favorite thing and would be sure to complete that fantasy for me. Later on I realized OMG I made that happen, hahaha.

But in other things, I've manifested a letter from someone I hadn't heard from in 3 years (a self-deemed leaver too), I've manifested phone calls, texts, emails, coffees, a parakeet! lol. A dog. The current dog I have I manifested without even realizing I had. Lost weight, brought people back into my life. List can go on. I just never realized before that it was me doing it with such power. Now that I've been learning more I'm pretty proud of myself. Sadly I've manifested loss of pets so there's that downside, but far more positive things too.